Do you want to:
Deepen, repair, or decide about your own relationship?
Help a partner, friend, or family member?
Add value to your client’s experience in private practice?
Help partners resolve complex relationship problems?
Welcome to Your Developmental Journey
Review how you love and fight to detect core wounds and beliefs, the result of unresolved losses and negative modeling from childhood.
As you feel less burdened by the past, you have more energy to imagine new outcomes and strategize how to get from here to there. Create a vision for your ideal life.
Building your future intentionally from an open heart deepens on-going insight and builds momentum. Life feels good and you can be proud of yourself.
REFLECT Establishing Your Baseline
“The way we experience the world around us is a direct reflection of the world within us.” – Gabrielle Bernstein
Great listeners are memorable as it’s a rare experience to feel truly understood. When a person is curious, asking deep questions about how you feel, you listen closer to your own self. To be listened to is to be taken seriously in the world.
How well do you listen to yourself?
While it’s a lot less work to rely on default internal settings to think, feel and behave, it doesn’t lead you to experience new heights in your life. Truly reflecting inward; while being curious and compassionate requires effort. Do as little or as much as you want, it’s up to you.
Here is where to begin
Start with assessments to clarify your present state of feelings with yourself and relationships. Establishing your baseline builds optimism. As you track progress, you can see how far you’ve come.
PLAN Organizing For Success
“When performance is measured, performance improves. When performance is measured and reported back, the rate of improvement accelerates.” – Pearson’s Law
It’s fine to change, if that’s your conscious choice. Some situations are vastly improved by telling yourself the truth, but not necessarily taking bold action.
If you want to change, but hamstring yourself with low expectations, resentment grows. Personal power dims as your storytelling about why something bad is really okay becomes heavily ingrained. Instead of truth, the capacity for denial, usually a family legacy, takes hold.
Your next step is to organize
After reflecting on your truth, plotting micro-skills needed to accomplish bigger goals is the next step.
Setting small, mid, and far horizon goals and tracking progress, signals that you’re organized, someone who can get things done. As you proceed, cultivating your inner voice of encouragement reverses the damage caused by decades of internalized judgment. Your heart gets stronger, as you become the invaluable friend to yourself that you’ve always needed.
Schedule your learning time
Set aside a little time each day and get reminders using your learning scheduler.
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EVOLVE Creating the Life You Want
“We are the facilitators of our own creative evolution.” – Bill Hicks
When you’re attached to a limiting story of yourself, you don’t allow yourself to pursue your ideal. You typecast yourself as a minor character, instead of the hero, choosing paths that lead to self-sabotage.
Your final step is implementation.
As you try on novel approaches in your life, you observe yourself and others, turning into how things feel. by learning what uniquely feels right or wrong, you evolve. While it’s not always an easy path, your courageous investment results in self-confidence, peace and love.
- Developmental Categories (to deal with an acute pain point, such as an affair, loss, separation).
- Purchase All (to increase overall emotional intelligence, set learning goals and study schedule).
- JOURNAL
- Recommend to partner, friend, family or client for a deeper dive.
